Let’s speak in analogies

Let’s say you have a job. Let’s say it’s your first ever job. You’re a little hesitant about it. Excited, but a little afraid that you might do something wrong because you know so many friends have had terrible jobs before.
But your boss – your first boss – is really nice to you. He listens to you, he watches out for you, and you’re starting to really like your job. Everything seems to be going fine. You try your best to meet his needs, despite your inexperience. You even thank God you’ve found a job with such a wonderful boss. You picture yourself in this job for a very long time, if not forever.
Then suddenly, right after the company dinner and dance, he fires you. No appraisal, no second chance. You never knew his expectations were not met.
You are stunned. You take your pink slip and leave. You feel worthless. You break down and cry uncontrollably for two days in a row in embarrasing public scenes. Your friends try to get you out of the house and tell you there’ll always be other jobs out there. But for now, you’re reeling and trying to forget about what happened.
Soon after that, you get a phone call from your ex-boss, asking what you’ve been up to the past few days.
You want to scream, “Getting over the job you just sacked me from!!!”. You don’t want to talk but he doesn’t seem to realise it.
Your boss wants to be friends, days after sacking you. You try to listen a little longer but can’t take it. You tell yourself not to break down again in a public place. You have to put down the phone quickly.
You’re a Christian and you know you have to forgive your boss, just as Christ has forgiven us our sins. But for now, you just want some space and time to yourself to regain some semblance of dignity.


  1. L

    hey van,
    sorry to hear about your current job status– esp since there seemed to be much potential when we last caught up at jelita with WH. yeah, the job market is tough, and there are often times when there seems like we had aced the interview, only to find out that nothing materializes.
    maybe, you boss is just scouting the market, maybe he realises that he has no capital and time for bringing his business to a higher level, maybe timing is not right…
    that’s a lot of maybes , so best not to linger over this disappointment.
    one day, a perfect job opportunity will come about, and we just have to pray that we will grasp it when it does.

  2. Bec

    As much as it hurts now I know you will move onto bigger and better things.
    Do you really want to work for guy who such a bad manager? Sure he might listen and be nice, but can he manage?
    He’s not an effectiive coach, fails to mentor to you and is not interesting in your learning and development. On top of this the guy has the tact and sensitivity of a steamroller.

  3. James

    Unexpected things do happen. There are no pet answers nor smooth sayings that can ease the pain. On average, IT workers change 10 jobs before they turn 35. Look at the brighter side, I supossed you were paid before you were let go. It was a lot better than the shop went broke and you had to sue for back wages.

  4. babypuppi

    Hate the notion of “Let’s be friends”… You DON’T have to be friends & you shouldn’t have to endure any overtures to soothe an idiot’s conscience. You deserve much better friends! xoxoxo

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