After a buildup of thoughts, experiences, discussions and observations, I’ve come to the following conclusions:

Even if you’re very busy at work, always set aside some time to:

  1. Stretch, take a drink of water, get some fresh air, look at far objects through the window
  2. Pop by to talk to a colleague face-to-face instead of calling him/her (especially if you’re only 3 cubicles away!)
  3. Smile at the person who clears your trash and vacuums your floor. Say ‘thank you’ and ‘please’ to everyone who helps you.
  4. Get some exercise every week, or at least, use the stairs instead of the lift (you can combine this with having face-to-face discussions with colleagues on different floors)
  5. Have lunch with other people, not by yourself with a takeaway box at your desk all the time
  6. Get to know someone in another department or division better, even if you don’t work with him/her directly
  7. Have dinner with former colleagues to catch up with their lives
  8. Make people laugh
  9. Keep on learning. Read up on areas of interest (even if you only have time to skim), send relevant articles to people and if you can, sign up for a short talk or seminar
  10. Clean up your desk from time to time, or come up with a new way to organise things so that your cubicle feels new and different. Give it a personal touch so that visitors feel welcome

It does help if you’re a people person, of course, but no man is an island. Knowing people better, and likewise, having people know you better, makes your job easier. You won’t need to make cold calls anymore; people may be more flexible in making arrangements with you; the vibes are better and you’ll go home feeling a little more lifted than if you behaved like a hermit.

The work will always be there, but if you’re spending at least a third of your day in the office, you might as well make it a bit more enjoyable, no?

My views on social networking

March 12, 2010 11:47 PM | Comments (0)

Thanks to the students and staff at TKGS, MediaCorp’s Campus on 938 Live team and my fellow panelists for the lively discussion this morning on social networking. I won’t repeat what was said because there will be a podcast of this session which I will link to when ready.

Firstly, can I say that I had no idea that some of the girls had gone through my blog :) If I had known, I’d probably have updated it more frequently. I used to call it ‘The Daily Weblog’ even though my updates became weekly, then twice weekly… Finally I realised I had to call a spade a spade, and took the name out.

What have I been doing, now that I blog less?

Networking online, of course. And I’ve always been networking offline. Sometimes the two activities meet (when I connect online to someone I’ve met in real life). Other people I’ve met in person may not have Facebook or LinkedIn accounts, so they remain my contacts only in real life.

I have yet to meet a few online friends in person, but we may be familiar with each other’s work or area of interest and have a number of mutual friends. Eventually we will meet in real life. However, I don’t accept connection requests from people I totally do not know of, with no affiliations (like coming from the same school or former company) and no common friends.

I think each of us has to know our limits when it comes to privacy, and enforce this limit consistently.

A few thoughts that I didn’t get to communicate while on air:

Regarding the reaction to parents being on social networks: Age may make a difference. Youths may cringe when their parents try to add them as friends. But, as we grow older and (hopefully) resolve our differences with our parents, it doesn’t feel so awkward.

Conversely, young children today are increasingly tech-savvy, and those who are very close to their parents and other family members may also love interacting with them online.

I can share one personal anecdote. Amusingly, my niece got her grandmother (my aunt) to join Facebook. My aunt, BTW, is not in the least bit interested in technology. But because her granddaughter loves Facebook, my aunt allows her to update her profile. And it is funny because it is obvious that the ‘hip’ updates are not made by my aunt but on her behalf, by her granddaughter.

Ultimately it depends on your relationship with your family. If it’s very good, you probably won’t mind connecting to them online (if they know how to). If it’s very bad, no matter how tech-savvy you and your parents are, you are less likely to connect with them. So, the root of the issue goes beyond technology. It’s really about human relations. Online social networking is simply a means to the end. (And it’s not the only means)

And, to re-iterate my point about self-esteem, don’t let the amount of activity on your Wall, the number of friends and comments you have, or the number of photos you’re tagged in, be a reflection of your standing in life. Not everything can be measured by a website, and quality does count as well, not quantity.

In someone else's shoes

March 4, 2010 11:56 PM | Comments (0)

Sometimes I leave the office, full of thoughts in my head about how I’m going to juggle several projects, manage downwards and upwards and so forth.

Then I go somewhere else, and see what real problems are like. And all the little nagging thoughts I’ve been having about my own life leave my head, as I realise how small they are compared to the trials that other people are facing.

Today, I felt really sad for someone. My first, instinctive reaction was to offer a scientific, psychological explanation as to why things turned out that way and how it can be improved. (I blame this on the way I have to think, at work)

But what was needed at the time was emotional support, and so I held my tongue. Sometimes people just want a listening ear and prayers, because there’s nothing much else we can do.

Having had to reach out to others in more dire straits than me tonight made me think as well about how I’ve withdrawn myself from volunteer work over the years. How I’ve felt it was a strain on me and that I needed to get my own house in order before offering to tidy up others’. It’s got to a point where I’ve simply stopped coming forward to help.

Then I see how other people give themselves selflessly to a cause, and marvel at the inner strength they seem to have. I see little miracles of selflessness at my office every day and thank God for providing inspiration. I wonder if I will ever reach that level.

At least tonight I will remember to be grateful for what I have and the relatively small problems I face.

A plethora of management thoughts

February 27, 2010 8:59 AM | Comments (0)

It’s difficult these days to blog about work, but work is what I’ve been mainly caught up with. Perhaps I can refer to general ideas which many of you may identify with, without being very specific.

My concern, as always, is about doing work that isn’t strategic or scalable.We could very well be doing work that can actually be delegated to others, or outsourced more completely. Apply a little managerial accounting (activity-based costing + opportunity cost) and the truth will out. But there are many other factors coming into play, such as our own uncertainty, our newness to the role and the need to be in control, and a limited budget (which is usually an issue for everyone isn’t it?).

The other thing I’ve noticed is that people tend to conform to whatever system has been designed for them. Systems are not meant to sit around for years, untouched, becoming increasingly irrelevant as needs change.

For instance, a system may capture generic information when it can actually pinpoint the needs of specific customers or segments. Why don’t we fine tune that further, just like how the market-oriented MNCs do it? Don’t tell me “we can’t do it because we are not an MNC” - I need a better reason than that.

I’ve also noticed there is usually a fear that IT will fail, and changes take time and money. Improvements are seen from a short-term, cost perspective far more than from a ‘benefits’ perspective, because costs are immediately visible, but benefits take place over a longer period of time and are harder to quantify.

Others who do see the need for change may not have authority to do so. But, the world around us is changing and we must adapt to it. Not all the time, of course, for that would be more effort than it’s worth, but surely it can be done in strategic phases. Look at it another way - we probably spend more time servicing and upgrading our cars and other gadgets, than the valuable systems we use at work to serve our customers better. Isn’t that a shame?

Another area of neglect which I’ve noticed through my various work experiences, is the user interface. Ah, not a very important or strategic area, you may think? Well, think again. Think of the time spent by each employee figuring out an inherently confusing interface, as well as the hours spent giving training, and the fact that many employees use the systems only when absolutely necessary because they are such a pain to update.

I’ve used other systems, mainly the Web 2.0 offerings, which do not require a thick instruction manual. I enjoy using them, and keep coming back. It’s much easier to spread knowledge and keep track of things when it feels almost effortless.

I challenge all internal systems providers to think of your internal product as if it would be sold to the market. Would anyone buy it, or would your rivals outclass you? What would you do to make customers want to use your product more? And what is stopping you from doing it?

Beyond these knowledge management and operational efficiency aspects, another challenge I’m throwing will be to bosses. What makes you a boss? Is it purely your rank, your extra years of experience, your qualifications? Or should the title of ‘boss’, ‘manager’ or day I say ‘leader’ be also conferred upon you, by those above, around and especially, below you?

In the words of my dean, Frank Brown, are you a LINO - a Leader In Name Only?

How often do you make the effort to mentor your team members, if at all? Or do you come in mainly after the work’s been done, because it is easier to judge then. and you’re too busy to guide them at the beginning? Do you also look at potential rather than where things stand, presently? Do you have a big vision that can be articulated to your team, or are you merely following orders? How do you deal with top performers and poor performers? How do you set a good example, foster a healthy, open work culture and incentivise your team to focus on the right things?

These are all questions I would ask before making a decision to stay or leave. And the jury’s still out on that.

Not Singaporean enough?

January 31, 2010 4:54 PM | Comments (0)

My mum, sis and I had lunch at Magma, the German restaurant. While we were deciding what to eat, my mother looked around and commented that this would be a nice place to bring the Tan clan.

We asked how many tables the restaurant could seat, and noted that it could accommodate all 30 of us.

At this point, the waitress was unable to hold back her curiosity, and ventured a question.

“Are you Singaporeans?”

That question was surprising, because we’ve dined out so many times over the decades and nobody’s mistaken us for foreigners. We speak with Singaporean accents (without the Singlish), and we don’t look particularly foreign. And the waitress herself appeared to be a local.

We told her we were Singaporeans. What made her ask that question?

She indicated that not many locals come to this place. Well, that doesn’t make us non-Singaporeans. I’ve dined at Magma for a few years and even had a Christmas dinner with a big group of colleagues (all locals) here.

Later on, I realised the waitress hadn’t completely gotten over the phenomenon of locals wanting to eat at this non-local restaurant.

“Hmm, they have beef tartar on the menu too!” I murmured. “But that’s not really German enough for me.”

“Beef tartar is raw,” interjected the waitress. She meant well but it didn’t seem to register that we were not uninitiated country buffoons.

“I know. I’ve been eating beef tartar for many years,” I replied.

Thereafter, we were left alone, but I could not forget this strong impression the waitress seemed to have - that this was only a place for expats, perhaps, and that local people do not know how to eat this kind of food.

Heard of Oktoberfest?? (yes, that’s more Bavarian, as my German classmates tell me, but the point is that Singaporeans are not all ‘sua koo’)

Overall, it was a most amusing exchange and I hope we have busted all the myths attached to our ‘local’ stereotype :)

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