God gives and God takes away

December 27, 2011 12:46 AM | Comments (0)

This Christmas, three of my friends encountered very different life-changing experiences.

First, just before Christmas Day, I was elated to hear that a close friend of mine was going to become a mother. My longstanding prayers for blessings have become that of thanksgiving, and now I can only ask for the pregnancy to be uneventful, and for a happy and healthy child to be born.

Second, on Christmas afternoon, I witnessed a friend’s baptism. I was delighted to hear that she had accepted Christ, and humbled that I had played a part in her journey.

The last piece of news, at the tail end of Christmas day, was sobering. Another friend’s father had passed away. The only consolation I could think of was that he would no longer be suffering. But it is still hard to accept.

Taking some time for reflection, I started to see a linkage between three seemingly unrelated events happening during this time.

For those who believe in God, it is a stunning reminder of how He can easily bless some of us who keep on persevering and seeking - yet, on other occasions, leave a void in the lives of others who have also been struggling on bravely.

There is no human way we can comprehend it all. All I can tell myself is that He has a plan for each one of us, and even though some of us cannot accept what seems like cruel fate, there is a higher purpose that has yet to be realised.

My thoughts are with many of you, my friends, as we move into the new year. Have a happy and spiritually healthy 2012.

Back!

December 16, 2011 11:00 PM | Comments (0)

So, I’ve gone nearly 3 months without a blog post here. The hectic life of (relatively) young couples in Singapore leaves little room for leisure, especially when tying the knot.

In October we finalised our choice of home.

In November we got married.

In December we came back from our honeymoon.

Who knows what lies ahead?

A Life without Borders

September 27, 2011 10:26 PM | Comments (0)

Borders, as everyone should know by now, has closed its chapter in Singapore.

Many of us took for granted that it would always be there, and it was said that this branch was more profitable than the stores in the US. What happened? I have a few theories:

1) Too many “Read-only” users

Borders’ closure was heavily covered in the media and I can’t recall exactly where I saw this, but what a little boy said when interviewed, summed it all up. He said he would miss reading books at Borders.

If you only want to sit around and read books, go to a library. And if your fingers have already indented every page in a magazine, just buy it and stop blocking the aisle so that other customers can get to the titles they want.

You see, the US model of allowing customers to browse books while sipping coffee, which Borders attempted to export, doesn’t quite work in Singapore. The US has a tipping culture, more active volunteerism, and people feel that they should give back to a cause or an institution. Over here, the mentality among the majority is still very much ‘take all you can’, photocopy all your textbooks and only pay the minimum, if you really need your own copy.

This is why some local bookstores go to the other extreme and wrap up all their books - which make me feel like not buying any of them, either, unless I already know the contents of the book and it’s selling at a good price.

2) Lack of focus

Other factors were more within Borders’ control, such as the selection of non-book items, which was said to have diluted the focus on its core. I found the stationery items suitable as gifts for others, but not worth buying for myself on a regular basis.

Similarly, I am a music lover and an avid supporter of copyright but I hardly purchased any CDs from Borders because they were simply more expensive than other stores. It was ‘neither here nor there’ for me. If I wanted variety, I would go to HMV; if I wanted a more upmarket selection and personalised service, I would go to That CD Shop. At Borders, I could sample some albums but not all of them, and I was pretty much left to my own devices if I wanted to explore a new genre.

3) More affordable alternatives

The Amazon mobile app was also a huge dissuader of purchases at Borders, on my part. Scanning the bar codes of books, I would look at their marked-up Singapore prices and decide not to buy most of them. The discounts at Amazon were so great that even with shipping costs factored in, I would save money. Offline, local bookstores like Popular would sell the same business titles but at a much cheaper price, and for me, the choice was clear again. I would not buy at Borders. Not unless someone gave me a gift card, or I desperately needed the book (which was seldom the case).

Yet the Straits Times cited industry sources who felt it was Borders’ price cuts which did them in. I still feel there was a big markup. Obviously something along the value chain wasn’t quite working. Meanwhile, e-readers like the Kindle, Nook and even the iPad have become popular as substitutes to physical books, and they are here to stay.

Perhaps Borders’ high prices and low margins were caused by expensive rent, which is to be expected if you are situated along Orchard Road. In fact, many things in Singapore are expensive largely because of the high rentals (a discussion on which can warrant a thesis on its own) and the fact that many desirable objects are not made in Singapore, but imported from distant lands. Stores have to make a profit too, so these high prices are passed onto the Singaporean consumer.

4) No more oomph in the service

Last year, a senior executive wrote in the papers about how he enquired about books on two different Presidents of the United States, but the young Borders assistants did not know who they were. When he expressed his surprise, their response was that it was not taught in school. This may have arisen from a rigid adherence to learn only what comes out in exams, and a lack of curiosity about anything outside of one’s immediate concern.

If this is any indication of what the future of our workforce will be like, then we in Singapore (and not just Borders) have something to worry about.

And if paid human labour isn’t adding much value to the customer experience of a physical store, I may as well turn back to Amazon’s intuitive interface, which at least tells me what other titles I may be interested in, and makes me want to buy more.

On a similar note, there’s a reason why customers in the US make appointments to see a Genius in the Apple Store, and why they continue to buy from Apple. There’s quality assurance in there, together with personalised service. But Apple’s margins, as an innovator and not just a retailer, are surely fatter than a bookseller’s.

5) It’s the industry, stupid

Let’s face it: The physical book retailing industry isn’t particularly creative. Local bookstores like Times and MPH have long been marginalised, downsizing their own flagship stores over the years and selling their wares at relatively low local prices. The only worthy big players left, in my opinion, are Kinokuniya and Page One, which have a more discerning selection of titles, and, from my experience so far, more knowledgeable service staff.

Local online stores such as Opentrolley may also have whittled away at the customer base. Popular Bookstore will remain a behemoth in the low-price and textbook market, with its staple audience of students and other mainstream local customers, and it has cleverly diversified its portfolio through its middle-class Harris and higher-end Prologue stores, while passing on the benefits of membership throughout all 3 segments of its customer base.

Interestingly, boutique stores like Books Actually may be on their way up, as they differentiate themselves through niche selections and clearly focus on a very different audience from the mass market. I particularly like how it supports local authors.

I believe we must support retailers that dare to do something different. Otherwise, what we will have left are stores that only stock mainstream products. It can be a slippery slope as more business decide to play safe, and plunge deeper into the red ocean.

What I say is entirely my own opinion, through my own experiences as a customer; I do not have perfect knowledge of what actually happened behind the scenes to Borders or other retailers. But this surely has to be a wake-up call, not just for the book retail industry but any other institution that has failed to adapt to change.

A new schedule for a new me

August 14, 2011 11:59 PM | Comments (0)

With less than 3 months to the wedding and me wanting to be a generally sharper and more effective person, I realise I need to heal quickly, tone up a little and be mentally alert.

In order to achieve this, I have thought of a new schedule which involves sleeping by midnight (which just passed, oops), waking up at 7am, actually having time to read the papers / check a round of emails / do some light exercise before going to work.

Nutrition wise, that means:

  • Having more salads as substitutes to main courses
  • Drinking a lot more water than I currently do
  • Opting for water instead of flavoured drinks (even if they come with the set lunch)
  • Cutting down on coffee! Not more than 1 cup a day, preferably without sugar.
  • Getting rid of my overly sweet 3-in-1 powdered drinks
  • Giving away all most of the chocolates I bought from recent travels

Fitness wise, this means:

  • Ensuring my fractured foot heals fast by binding it up every night and wearing more comfortable shoes as far as possible
  • Lifting weights for muscle toning
  • Doing more exercises that don’t involve too much pressure on the feet - possibly taking up swimming

Other wise, this means:

  • Cutting down on social activities and not staying up too late
  • Not taking on additional workloads - I’ve got enough on my plate already
  • Planning even more than I already do, for all sorts of things
  • Noting down more things than I already am doing, in case I forget with all the additional stimuli occurring as the date draws closer
  • Getting friends and family to reinforce what I’m doing, through encouragement and gentle prodding ;-) That’s a hint.

Time for bed!

My foot!

August 4, 2011 11:08 PM | Comments (0)

I sought a second opinion this morning and learned that I had been walking about for the past 3 months with a fracture in one of my metatarsals.

Interestingly, I had correctly diagnosed my own condition when I first hobbled over to see a private GP 3 months ago, only to be told (wrongly) that I had simply pulled a tendon.

How did I know what it was? Because I am a football fan and learned all about metatarsals when Wayne Rooney broke his foot. And at the time, the pain was great and it felt like I had indeed broken something.

As I was told it was just a sprain, I treated my foot accordingly. I bandaged it daily - until my skin started to react to the bandage. I rubbed anti-inflammatory gel on it. I even got my foot vigorously massaged by a Chinese sinseh!

But colleagues noticed that my foot was taking longer than expected to heal. I couldn’t wear high-heeled shoes anymore, nor could I go to the gym. Some days it seemed like I was recovering; on other days the foot would swell up again.

The other thing that was strange was the pain sometimes shifted from the side of my foot, to different toe joints. How could this be explained?

The visit to a specialist and an X-Ray helped to shed some light. The third metatarsal was broken, and while the second and fourth metatarsals were fine, more weight was put on them and this may have inflamed the joints of those toes. That also explained why the area in the middle of my foot was generally sore and swollen.

All I can think of now, is the need to recover quickly in order to walk down the church aisle in a few months’ time.

On the bright side, I am really glad to have received care and concern from many people, particularly my colleagues (who are obviously in the right line of work for this sort of thing).

I also got my feet analysed and learned I had high arches, which places greater pressure on certain parts of my feet. So now I wear special insoles to redistribute the weight. I am also increasing my calcium intake and hope to gradually increase physical activity levels as my foot recovers.

When it comes to health, one must ‘toe’ the line… or ‘foot’ the bill!

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